LOVE.

   How does love help you? What do you exactly mean when you say you "love" a person? Is it right to "fall" in love? Is it possible to "rise" in love instead falling in love? These questions haunted me for a while. Watching the teenage world around me going on and on about love, I also thought of actually contemplating on this. I realized, I would love my boyfriend just how I love my mom. In the sense that there's a difference between "falling" in love and simply loving. When you say you have "fallen" in love, it sounds much like a problem. Like "I have fallen in a pit". Now such love, which binds you, doesn't let you free, restricts you from being you, changes you, and takes control over you, is most certainly NOT true love. Love, I feel, is easy. Love will HELP you. It should give you strength and confidence! It should give you an optimistic outlook towards the world. It should improve your life! Make it easier! After all, you have a person to share all your burdens with. Isn't that the whole point? That person is the one person you truly care about. And if that person himself is sort of a burden to you, what's the point? Love should make you RISE. It should bring out the best in you. It should make you free of insecurities.

    

   Or.... Maybe it's just an emotion, just like happiness or sadness. Which shows that it's temporary. And I feel, every god damned feeling and emotion on earth is temporary. Because, one emotion has to pass to make space for the next one! It's up to you to hold on it or let it go.

   "Love is true only when it hurts." "We can sacrifice things for each other and we'll get through this together." -biggest misconceptions ever. Love is easy. Love is simple. Love is natural. It's a beautiful emotion to seize but also not drag, it's a tender balance between being a pushover and being unnecessarily rigid. Glorifying the fact that you're doing a lot for your partner is like showing that you’re doing an obligation to your partner. And you both don't want that.

   

    To have a relationship is not something to follow rules in. It's a choice. I wouldn't say love is a choice, but whether you want to hold on to it or no, is.  When people say "relationship", they mean commitment. In a negative manner, meaning it involves rules and restrictions, of not being able to be with anyone else except for that one person.  For me, it's not a rule, it's not a compulsion, and it’s a choice. Because you realize that you love spending time with that person, why would you miss being with someone else? And people often associate love with compromise and sacrifice. They're words that refer to forcibly letting go of something. Whereas I feel it should happen naturally. In my case it does, as in, if you're doing something for the person you care about, doing that will make you happy, you're doing it by choice! It's not forceful. So in relationships, if you have to ADJUST, you're not in the right place. If doing something for someone else is a part of your comfort zone, you're good to go.